Your License to Ill – Pregnant Woman’s Right to Morning Sickness

Don’t Mess With My Zofran

The words “morning sickness” conjure up so many things for me.  Had a documentary film crew been following me through the first 5 months of my pregnancy they would have had several opportunities to achieve cinematic greatness as they chronicled my plight.  To start, there was this overwhelming smell of cigarette smoke everywhere I went and my resulting disgust that those close to me must surely be sneaking some cigs when I’m not looking.  How dare they lead a secret, unhealthy lifestyle without checking with me?!  Come to find out, that was actually the first weak signal that I was pregnant and it wasn’t cigarette smoke but an intense ability to sniff out mold and mildew in any location.  Go figure.  Sorry Steve for all the finger wagging that you endured even though you had never smoked in your life!

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The Temporary Empty Nest

This week was Spring Break in our neck of the woods.  It’s wonderful that my son got to spend the week with his grandparents.  He had a blast and I can’t wait to see him later this afternoon.

On paper, this would have been a working mother’s dream!  No kid activities after work.  No guilt when you stay at the office just a bit longer to finish a report.  Date nights with your husband.

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Working Through Mommy Brain

My pals at LiberatingWorkingMoms recently wrote about “mommy brain” and it sparked some reflection on my part about how my pregnancy and now everlasting mommy brain has impacted my work. Overall, it’s been a good thing if you don’t count the really stupid stuff I’ve done.

If you want to get all scientific about it, there is a great book by Katherine Ellison called The Mommy Brain that makes the argument that women can actually get smarter as a result of having children. So I guess the Octomom is a genius?!?

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The Legend of Big Foot – My Working While Pregnant Shoe-mergency

Notice:  I must warn you that the photo included with this post is intended for mature audiences.  The feet shown are my actual feet and are indicative of a 50+ lb weight gain during my pregnancy.  The story of these big feet is true and thankfully all involved are still living to tell the tale today.

I was looking through some old photos the other day and stumbled upon a file folder named “Pregnancy”.  Since they were shown in date/time order, I could see the progression of my pregnancy unfold right before my eyes.  Kind of like those little drawings you do at the bottom of a flip book to make the stick man dance and jump, I could see my body morphing into what would become the mother of a 10lb 2oz baby boy.  Granted, the saggy abs that I have today are evidence that something major had happened in my past but I forget what my body had really gone through in those ten months of pregnancy (please correct people who say it’s only nine…forty weeks = 10 months!)

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My Day As a Stay At Home Mom…Fail

Last week my son was sick so I stayed home from work with him.  I had such grand visions of all the things that I would accomplish on my day as a stay at home mom.

I have always fancied that if I stayed at home my house would be so clean and I’d be so fit and cute all the time.  Maybe I’d wear a little black track suit to go pick my son up from school (with Starbucks in hand) after my book club at Barnes and Noble.   I’d also work on volunteering at the school and Fridays would be the day I ran copies for teachers in the workroom.  On those days I’d wear skinny jeans and a hip scarf with some jewelry I got from my neighbor who sells Silpada.  Scary how detailed the fantasy was.

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I Gotta Have Faith – Working Your Real Hours

In my workplace I am an oddity.  Here’s a few reasons why:

  1. I’m just odd.  As a creative, outgoing person I am outside the norm of my introverted engineery co-workers.
  2. I’m female.  Probably 85% – 90% of the workforce in my organization of 5,000+ is male.
  3. I work a reduced work schedule at a reduced salary.  (Insert sound of a co-worker spitting out their coffee at the horror of this thought)

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Pregnancy Discrimination Grows Like a Baby Bump – Not Good America!

Just read a  interesting (and depressing) post from Time about pregnancy discrimination.    Once again, I’m trying not to call foul and be the victim but come on.  As always, there are two sides to every story and no doubt maternity benefits are a weight on employers.  But how is it that other countries have figured it out?  Read the article here http://healthland.time.com/2012/02/16/pregnant-at-work-why-your-job-could-be-at-risk/

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It’s Not All About the Money, Right? Moms earn up to 14 percent less than women who don’t have children

Usually my radio is tuned to NPR and I listen to it every day during my commute to and from work.  I really enjoy it and there are some days where I just sit in the parking lot at work while I’m getting all teared up over a Story Corps story.  Contrast that with the fact that the most played song on my iPod is “Peter Piper” by Run DMC and you’ll understand a little more about what makes me tick.

Anywho… I didn’t get to hear this interview live but I ran across it on the web.  The Wage Gap Between Moms, Other Working Women : NPR.  In this interview host Michel Martin discusses the gap between working mothers and other working women with University of New Mexico  economist Kate Krause; Dina Bakst of A Better Balance, a workplace rights organization; and Dawn Porter, founder of Trilogy Films and a mother of two.

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Maternity Leave Book Club – Good Reads Before You Return to Work

If only I were Oprah I could really make a Maternity Leave Book Club happen.  Actually, if I were Oprah I wouldn’t waste time with a book club.  I’d pay people to write books about me and then have William Shatner read them back to me while trained pandas massage my feet.  (Jealousy is a form of flattery right?  I got no beef with Oprah).

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What Did Your Boss Really Say? True Stories of Telling Them You’re Pregnant

Tell Boss You're PregnantAs I hear from working women about their trials and tribulations of pregnancy and maternity leave, one of the hot topics is always “when/how to tell your boss you’re pregnant”.  There is so much fear and concern about how the manager will respond.

I have a theory that most of the fear about telling the boss comes from myths and legends, but I could be wrong (I hope I am).  I actually think that in most cases the manager is willing to work with you as best they know how.  That’s the deal, most don’t know how so the whole thing gets awkward and clunky.

So, here’s where you come in… I need your stories.  What REALLY happened when you told your boss you were pregnant?  Comment here with your story and please share this with the other working women you know who would have a story to share.

Thanks!  Let’s get those comments rolling in.

Baby Prep 101 – For Moms Who Want To Know It All

Do you like lists? Have you been researching all the experts and reading your “What to Expect” religiously? Well then Houston moms (and dads) mark your calendar for February 23rd because I have good news for you!

Premier Baby Planning regularly hosts their popular Baby Prep 101 class and if you’d like to know the scoop on how to prioritize the many things to do before baby arrives this class is great for you.  You will receive guidance on where to focus your time and energy when preparing for baby.  Topics will help you make informed decisions and include birth plans, prenatal services and classes to consider, nursery tips, choosing the right pediatrician, completing your maternity checklist, transitioning to return to work or stay home and so much more! Reducing stress is important for every pregnancy.  Being educated, informed and organized helps make your pregnancy more enjoyable. This class is for expecting parents and will help answer some of those questions that are keeping you up at night.

For more information and to register visit http://premierbabyplanning.com/

 

Survey Says… They’d Work Even If They Didn’t Have To

A recent study by Karen Christopher, an associate professor of Women’s/Gender Studies and Sociology at the University of Louisville, showed that the working women who were surveyed would work even if they didn’t have to.

I’d be interested to hear from other working moms to see if they agree with the study’s findings.

http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2012-01/sfwi-wml012312.php

Take a look at the summary of the study and weigh in.

Grandma Was Workin’ It – 80+ year old working woman reflects

working motherThis weekend my son and I went to visit my grandparents – Richard and Liz (aka Paw Paw Richard and Maw Maw Bebo) – in Lake Charles,  Louisiana.  They had celebrated their 85th (Richard) and 82nd (Liz) birthdays earlier in the week and it was wonderful to spend some quality time with them.

I had some good chats with my grandmother and I shared about the blog and how I’m hoping to support moms who are struggling with the juggle of work and home.   I can’t ever remember my grandmother not working.  As a matter of fact she takes pride in the fact that she still maintains a separate “business  account” for the sewing she does for family and friends.  I asked her about her experiences as a working mother and here’s how the general conversation went.

Me:  So Maw Maw, was it hard for you to work and also have four kids at home?

Liz:  It was a lot to manage but back then we had help at home and we had wonderful women who would come to the house to be with the kids and keep the house in order.

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