Maternity Leave Well Wishes

Here’s you dilemma.  Your co-worker is expecting and now you’re expected to write a nice note along with your baby shower gift.  You know it’s not appropriate to write on the card, “You look like you’ve gained 70 lbs so we hope you’re really having a baby!”  so what do you write instead?  Here’s a handy-dandy list of appropriate well wishes for someone about to go on maternity leave.  These could also work for a father celebrating a new arrival or congratulations to new adoptive parents.  Use these for inspiration and “make it your own” to be sure it sounds like something you would say.

  • Blessings to you and your family during this precious time. Can’t wait to meet the sweet new addition.
  • We will miss you while you’re home with your beautiful bundle of joy.  We’ll be sure to not leave a bundle of work for you when you return!
  • God bless all of you….enjoy this sacred time! Can’t wait to see pictures of the newest family member!
  • Our very best wishes for a healthy and happy baby!
  • Good luck on your maternity leave.  Can’t wait to meet your “new boss”!
  • Wishing you well on your maternity leave. We’ll miss you!
  • Our thoughts will be with you for a happy and healthy baby.  Take your time to rest and enjoy your little one.
  • We will surely miss you while you’re home with baby.  When you come back to work, we’ll be sure not to ask you to change any diapers!

In general it’s absolutely appropriate to wish the mom-to-be a healthy delivery and baby.  If you’re wishing them well there aren’t too many things you can say that are wrong.

However there are two areas you’ll want to steer clear of…You will want to avoid joking that you think her/his time off is going to be easy.  I’ve heard some co-workers say, “I’d sure like six weeks of time away from work!”  New parents are signing up for sleepless nights, endless diaper changes and a whole lot of stress – many times at reduced or no pay!  Even if you’re not cut out to be a parent hopefully you can appreciate and respect their decision to bring a life into the world.

You will also want to avoid advice or sensitive questions about how they will give birth or parent the child.  Childbirth and parenting are very personal subjects that are usually best avoided in the workplace.  The new parent will initiate with you if they are seeking advice.  Otherwise they usually just want you to tell them their baby is going to be the cutest in the world.

Hopefully these tips will help you send off the new mom to a wonderfully rewarding maternity leave.  New parents will appreciate your well wishes and encouragement during this exciting time in their lives.

P.S.  Another great gift…. tell them about this blog (but not that you found your heartfelt sentiment here!)

Bump Day is the new Hump Day

All I have to say it “Hump Day” and you see it and hear it.  If not, here’s the link on YouTube to re-sear it in your brain.  Hump Day Commercial

I’m sure you hate me a little bit now for refreshing your memory.

In the traditional Hump Day the camel walks around the office shouting “Hump Day!” but I’m taking over Wednesdays and making them Bump Days!    This Wednesday walk around your office and show off that big ol’ belly with pride!

In the Comments below share how your day went.

Who is Sophie?

Who is Sophie and why do does my baby need her?

If reviewers on Amazon are a gauge of whether or not a product is worthy to purchase, go immediately and order up a Sophie!  Vulli Sophie the Giraffe Teether

Really?  A rubber giraffe gets 4 stars out of 5 after receiving 1,858 reviews and I start to wonder why.

Of course she’s super cute and who doesn’t need something super cute for their baby.  But according to parents who have a Sophie (or three) at home, it’s the best thing since sliced bread mother’s milk.

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Your License to Ill – Pregnant Woman’s Right to Morning Sickness

Don’t Mess With My Zofran

The words “morning sickness” conjure up so many things for me.  Had a documentary film crew been following me through the first 5 months of my pregnancy they would have had several opportunities to achieve cinematic greatness as they chronicled my plight.  To start, there was this overwhelming smell of cigarette smoke everywhere I went and my resulting disgust that those close to me must surely be sneaking some cigs when I’m not looking.  How dare they lead a secret, unhealthy lifestyle without checking with me?!  Come to find out, that was actually the first weak signal that I was pregnant and it wasn’t cigarette smoke but an intense ability to sniff out mold and mildew in any location.  Go figure.  Sorry Steve for all the finger wagging that you endured even though you had never smoked in your life!

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The Temporary Empty Nest

This week was Spring Break in our neck of the woods.  It’s wonderful that my son got to spend the week with his grandparents.  He had a blast and I can’t wait to see him later this afternoon.

On paper, this would have been a working mother’s dream!  No kid activities after work.  No guilt when you stay at the office just a bit longer to finish a report.  Date nights with your husband.

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Working Through Mommy Brain

My pals at LiberatingWorkingMoms recently wrote about “mommy brain” and it sparked some reflection on my part about how my pregnancy and now everlasting mommy brain has impacted my work. Overall, it’s been a good thing if you don’t count the really stupid stuff I’ve done.

If you want to get all scientific about it, there is a great book by Katherine Ellison called The Mommy Brain that makes the argument that women can actually get smarter as a result of having children. So I guess the Octomom is a genius?!?

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The Legend of Big Foot – My Working While Pregnant Shoe-mergency

Notice:  I must warn you that the photo included with this post is intended for mature audiences.  The feet shown are my actual feet and are indicative of a 50+ lb weight gain during my pregnancy.  The story of these big feet is true and thankfully all involved are still living to tell the tale today.

I was looking through some old photos the other day and stumbled upon a file folder named “Pregnancy”.  Since they were shown in date/time order, I could see the progression of my pregnancy unfold right before my eyes.  Kind of like those little drawings you do at the bottom of a flip book to make the stick man dance and jump, I could see my body morphing into what would become the mother of a 10lb 2oz baby boy.  Granted, the saggy abs that I have today are evidence that something major had happened in my past but I forget what my body had really gone through in those ten months of pregnancy (please correct people who say it’s only nine…forty weeks = 10 months!)

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My Day As a Stay At Home Mom…Fail

Last week my son was sick so I stayed home from work with him.  I had such grand visions of all the things that I would accomplish on my day as a stay at home mom.

I have always fancied that if I stayed at home my house would be so clean and I’d be so fit and cute all the time.  Maybe I’d wear a little black track suit to go pick my son up from school (with Starbucks in hand) after my book club at Barnes and Noble.   I’d also work on volunteering at the school and Fridays would be the day I ran copies for teachers in the workroom.  On those days I’d wear skinny jeans and a hip scarf with some jewelry I got from my neighbor who sells Silpada.  Scary how detailed the fantasy was.

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Who Asked You? Dealing With Unwanted Pregnancy Advice – Part 2

unwanted adviceI’m baaaaccckkkk.  In this post I’ll do Part 2 of  Dealing With Unwanted Pregnancy Advice.  Here’s the Part 1 post  https://www.maternityleavecoach.com/?p=165

It’s getting a little spicier in this post and we’ll walk through more assertive methods.

  1.   Get smart.  Do your research and you’ll find confidence that you are making the best choices.  You’ll be able to educate the other person along the way.  Of course,  YOU won’t be condescending  or rude when you educate others, right?

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Who Asked You? Dealing With Unwanted Advice During Pregnancy – Part 1

It usually comes along with a look of “you are so clueless about this baby in your belly” and it’s probably well intended.  But… it rarely is received in that way.  In talking with tons of moms I think that instead of those goofy shirts that say “baby” and have an arrow pointing to their belly, they might prefer a t-shirt that says “Who Asked You?”

Rude, I know but it’s how you start to feel after months of unsolicited advice.  So, you have some choices here – drop kick the next person who goes on about how you’re singlehandedly setting the Earth into a death spiral toward Armageddon by not using cloth diapers OR respond with grace and tact.

Here’s more on the grace and tact approach.  I’ll do this post in two parts, this one highlighting the more subtle approaches.

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“Those Moms” and their pants

I had a great chat earlier this week with a close friend who is having her first baby in two months. I love a good hormone fueled conversation so this one was great! In frustration and with guilt she proclaimed, “I’m just not cut out to be one of those trendy stay at home moms who wears yoga pants everywhere and runs marathons! I also don’t want to wear pink kitty cat sweatshirts and mom jeans! Am I wrong to want to go back to work after I’ve bonded with my baby and just be me?!?!”.

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Sisterhood of the Traveling Maternity Pants

I couldn’t wait to get maternity clothes.  Soon I was initiated into the sisterhood of the traveling maternity pants when friends offered up their maternity clothes on loan while I was going to be in need.  The first bag arrived and although I was only two months along, I just knew that I was huge so I tried them on immediately.  I was disappointed when everything seemed too loose.   (Keep in mind that I had only gained five pounds of the total of the fifty that were coming!)

So a few weeks passed and my pants were finally getting snug.  I stopped by Target after work and was glad to see in the maternity section some black and khaki pants that would be great for work.  The stretchy panels were even on the side in v shapes so they didn’t look nearly as hideous as those disgusting jean/pants things that I always saw expectant mothers resorting to. (Keep in mind that I eventually broke down and wore some hand-me-down disgusting jean/pants things because that was all that would fit.  Light wash “jean” material with a royal blue knit panel in front.  S.E.X.Y!)

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