Oh La La – French Parenting and Sleep Sense

bonne-nuitEven before that beautiful baby arrives you may find yourself not sleeping as well as you had before.  Maybe it’s a cruel trick to prepare you for the months, and for some, years to come!   I recommend that you get informed now and prepare yourself for how you will handle those cries in the night.  As a matter of fact, I put down the pregnancy books and started to read parenting books.  One situation lasts 9 months and the other goes on for 18+ years.  I figured I should devote my time and energy to the much more difficult and longer term commitment of parenting.

One book I recommend you read is Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting.  It is not only informative and helpful, it is also entertaining and enjoyable to read.  Taking the French perspective and comparing it to the parenting world you see around you in the US will definitely open your mind.  This book covers not only sleep but also how French moms approach feeding schedules as well as the mysterious “pause” – a method to teach patience in children.  Fascinating book that just may cause you to reconsider your approach to parenting.

How about the question you’ll inevitably get…”Does your baby sleep through the night?”  The second recommendation I’ll make is for The Sleep Sense Program.  I think the reason that The Sleep Sense™ Program is so popular is because it’s clear, simple, and easy to follow. Plus, it allows parents to choose one of two different approaches based on their child’s temperament and personality.  You may have read every book out there already but if you’re concerned that you won’t learn anything new with The Sleep Sense™ Program, my best advice to you is simply this: “Why not give it a try?”  It’s got a no-questions-asked money-back guarantee that’s good for a full year.  Also, Dana at The Sleep Sense Program offers a free sleep assessment to get you started.

So there you have it.  Two great resources for learning more about parenting and reclaiming your sleep.  As the French would say, “Bonne nuit!”

Job Searching While Pregnant

I had a question come in a few weeks ago and it prompts a good discussion about whether or not you should apply for new roles when you are pregnant. “Will they offer me the job if they know I am pregnant?” was the question posed. I offered up the very gray answer of “It depends.”

So “it depends” is based on several different factors which I’ll outline below.

#1 Are they Neanderthals who aren’t very interested in following the law?

If so, anticipate that if you have a visible baby bump you will probably get turned down. If you are not yet showing this puts you in the seat of whether or not you will disclose that you are expecting. We’ll cover how to handle that scenario a little later.

Regardless, if you already know that they are Neanderthals and you have other options to pursue – DON’T WASTE YOUR TIME. Why would you want to work for a bad company/boss anyway if you have a choice to go elsewhere??

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Adopting or Fostering? “Maternity Leave” for You Too

Any time I write about FMLA (Family Medical Leave Act) I get a little nervous because for as much benefit and protection that it gives to parents, there are also so many twists and turns that it is easy to misinterpret. So, I’ll start this post off by recommending that you seek counsel and guidance from your company’s HR department and if that gets weird you may have to involve a labor and employment attorney.

Here’s the short answer on “Can I take FMLA leave to adopt or foster a child?” The answer is “yes” however there are some differences if you are not giving birth to the child yourself.

Many supervisors and employees think that FMLA is only there to provide leave for medical conditions (pregnancy being one) however it also applies when an employee (either male or female) has started the process to adopt or foster a child. Be sure to let your manager and HR know well in advance that you are in the process of adopting or fostering a child. If your company is obligated to follow FMLA guidelines you are entitled to leave before the actual placement of a child in your home when the absence is required in order for the adoption to proceed.

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What You Wanted To Know – Doctor Appointments

pregnant-doctorToday when I looked at what search keywords are being used to find The Maternity Leave Coach it was very clear what’s on expectant mother’s minds… taking time off of work for doctor’s appointments. So, you ask and I deliver.  Here are some Q&A that will hopefully answer some burning questions.  AND… while you’re here be sure to check out the new Maternity Leave Prep Kit that will bring everything you need to know about preparing for maternity leave into one handy guide.  $9.99 is a small price to pay for the stress-relief of getting a plan in place.  Look to the right of the page to order your copy today.

Q. Can I use FMLA leave during my pregnancy or only after the birth of my child?

A. Yes. Employees can use FMLA leave during their pregnancy or after the birth of their child. Under the regulations, a mother can use 12 weeks of FMLA leave for the birth of a child, for prenatal care and incapacity related to pregnancy, and for her own serious health condition following the birth of a child. A father can use FMLA leave for the birth of a child and to care for his spouse who is incapacitated (due to pregnancy or child birth).

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